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I am like, really horribly mad right now. I feel twitchy, like I'm having issues containing it. So, I thought writing about it might help.

Honestly, I rarely get mad at people, I find it easier to let things pass over me. That is not to say that I won't speak up for myself or that I will allow people to yell at me without a reply, but it takes so much energy to be angry that it's often easier to let things go.

In this case, I'm having a lot of trouble doing the letting go thing.

I've mentioned my roommates before, but I can't remember if I've mentioned that I've been friends with the both of them all through college. One of them I've known since I started, the other is in my major and lived with me sophomore year and we've become close friends since.

However, as much as I love the both of them, the one who is also studying archaeology with me is really a gigantic pain to live with.

Her family is probably pretty rich for my standards, and certainly more well off in this economy than mine at the moment. I have no judgment on this aside from the fact that she is seemingly blind to the fact that other people are not funded continuously by their parents (not because their parents wouldn't like to, but because they just can't afford to do so--and it would make it a lot harder to grow up and move into the real world and have to survive on your own two feet). I say this because: she leaves a mess EVERYWHERE.

This is an issue:

1. We live in an apartment. When stuff gets wrecked, we get charged, so when she leaves tea mugs with tea on the counters or coffee, and it stains, we probably get charged for that. Problem for her, no, because her parents will pay for it, problem for my other roommate and myself, yes.

2. We're not sharing food (I've lived with her before and I ended up buying way more groceries than her, this is not happening again). However, we are sharing plates. Problem: she borrows dishes but doesn't take care of them. Example: I bought a new set of plates and matching mugs, I can only find three mugs. My other roommate doesn't have one, and this roommate said she had one and brought it down, but that still leaves one missing mug. I do not have it, I rarely get to use them. Prediction: she will find it filled with mold and stained beyond salvation somewhere in the pit of stuff she calls a room, I will throw it away, and it will be a waste of good dishes I WILL STILL USE. (This has just happened, hence the extreme anger)

3. She just doesn't clean. I don't know if she doesn't know how to, or if she just doesn't understand what happens if you don't. My other roommate and I have basically resigned ourselves to doing all of it. I don't really care about this, if I want a clean apartment I'll do it.

I am honest to God really mad about the mug though. They are literally two months old. In those two months, I think I've been able to use them three times, because she takes them otherwise. I also bought eight drinking glasses, I get to use those maybe every three days, if I'm lucky, because she grabs a new one every time she forgets about the old one, so they sit around our table full of various amounts of water for days.

I really just want to ask her: "How much money do you think I have? My money is mine, it is not my parents account, I can't just buy whatever I want or replacement dishes whenever I need because you don't respect my stuff enough to take care of it. Not everyone is as fortunate as you, and you need to wake up and realize that before you piss off people who don't like you as a friend and don't want to offend you. Honestly though, if you borrow my shit, and don't clean it up, then you are not only saying you don't care about my stuff but that you don't respect me enough to REMEMBER to take care of it. It's not my job to be YOUR parent. GROW UP!"

Anyway, I feel mildly better. So, I'm going to go make a salad in silence and ignore my roommate for a while.

I apologize for another rant. (Also, this may happen a lot).
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